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The holidays and missing loved ones

As people go into the holidays, do you have any advice for those feeling loss or missing loved ones who are not around.

Hi. This is Dr. Lennox Forrest. Happy Holidays and Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. I’m your psychologist for today. The holidays can be a very difficult time for many people especially for those who are feeling the loss of a loved one or friend who are not around. As a result of the loss or missing loved one(s) who are not around some of us are conflicted. By this I mean some of us  feel that we should be happy and joyous due to the holidays and on the other hand due to the loss or the loved one’s absence we feel that we shouldn’t be enjoying ourselves. This produces an inner conflict similar to what is called survivor’s guilt.

Here’s a few things that you can do to help you deal effectively with the feeling loss or missing loves ones who are not around.

1. Write down a list of things that you miss about the person and take time to reflect on these attributes of the loved one(s) who are not around.

2. Emulate the positive attributes to commemorate your loved ones positivity and worthiness.

3. If there was some negative attributes make a commitment not to embrace those attributes and classify them as a fault and then remind yourself that we all make mistakes.

Enjoy your Holidays with your family and friends and always give thanks for what you have.

Thank you.